Schools play vital role in upbringing the kids and help them become best of human beings. However, the role of schools has widely been limited to professional knowledge and help earning money. Auther of this article has listed down and elaborated 13 life skills that are not taught at schools.
1- Communication / Conversation Skills
Regardless of our educational qualifications and certifications, our success or failure in life heavily relies on how we express ourselves to others. Effective conversation skills will make you a likable person. Schools, unfortunately, only focus on the information and knowledge whereas there should be dedicated subjects on we interact with others. This should primarily include speaking to family, friends, teachers, shopkeepers. Later at college / university level, enhanced courses on how to speak to managers, boss, spouse need to be introduced
2- Relationship Management
Relationship management starts with tolerance, better listening skills, empathy and respecting others’ opinion. At young age students do not understand these concepts. By the time they become adults, some of them learn these skills through their parents. However not everyone has good-guiding parents and not all parents know these skills in details. Hence introducing Emotional Intelligence based courses at different grades of schools and colleges will help develop more tolerating pupils that would lead to tolerant societies and nations
Our relations stay alive as long as we live on the face of earth, hence it is imperative that we learn the skills that enable us developing and sustaining amazing relationships, be it with our loved ones or with colleagues or even with strangers. These skills include but not limited to trust development, emotional intelligence, ‘lighter’ talks, giving gifts, staying in touch and so on.
3- Financial Crisis Management
Not each family enjoys same level of blessings. Several medium and low class students develop inferiority complex due to natural tendency of comparing themselves with the upper class. Such students may not become better leader as their personality will have serious limitations in terms of shyness, less assertiveness, lack of decision making and so on.
Schools should introduce some subjects on how to be adaptable in different phases of life. If specic courses cannot be prepared then schools should encourage students to write essays on such subjects. They should be given certain situations to produce essays such as
- How to survive in joblessness.
- How to develop, modify, adapt different spending habits
- How to manage life with 3low income situations
- How to look at life from needs vs wants perspective
4- Failure Recovery Skills
Deaths, job loss, accidents, financial jerk are inevitable situations are life. No one is free from such situation. Even if someone sounds perfectly happy on social media, they will have their private problems which they do not want the world to know. A resilient person can return back to a normal human being as soon as life throws a challenge at him/her. A resilient person detaches himself/herself from the life challenges emotionally and addresses the problems logically. A larger problem can always be broken down to smaller problems and address one by one.
Crisis management can also be done using Stoic techniques. A stoic is a person who is indifferent to pain. While humans primarily are emotions based creature, yet practicing for being a stoic will help achieving a state that life challenges do not cause emotional breakdown.
Spirituality plays a major role for recovering from failures. A strong connection with God enables us for the same. Universal laws of God teach us that problems are inevitable. Problems are not road blockers, instead problems are the path to success. God takes men into deep waters not to drown them but to cleanse them. While schools/colleges may not teach these skills, students should start reading articles on such subjects to get insightful tips to achieve mental toughness.
13 Life Skills That Are Not Taught At Schools
5- Health Management
Life was different a couple of decades ago. Kids used to have organic food and stayed healthy due to immense physical activities after schools and on the weekend. Due to the easy availability of technical gadgets, less interest in physical games and general safety measure, many students stay home.
Due to ease of fast food ordering and home delivery, the physical inactivity issue becomes more alarming for our current generation of kids. While there have always been game breaks during schools hours, it is very important that Education Ministries introduce Health Management courses where students are emphasized to prioritize their health. They should be given guidance about obesity, diabetes and cholesterol.
Some of the countries have already taken necessary measure, many of the developing countries need more focus on this critical subject.
6- Work Life Balance
Happiness attainment through balanced life. Each segment of life should be given fair time and attention. While making money is critical act however not have health relationships, not having good company of friends, not having good health will lead to stressful state of mind
7- Self Assessment and Self Improvement Skills
One of the critical Keys to success is to believe in continuous improvement. If the kids today understand this concept and initiate their life-long learning journey now, they will become better leaders for tomorrow’s world. Key triggering point on what to learn comes from self-assessment. Schools should ignite such concepts in student’s brain that they should assess their skills in line with their interests and start their learning process, even at smaller scale. Every single minutes of learning will constitute towards the success of student.
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8- Spiritual Health
Spiritual health is important for peace and tranquility. With the continuous advancement in entertainment industry, our youth is moving away from the Connection-with-God. Parents these days are bringing up the kids by instilling the desires for best career and a lot of money. As a result of which, general chaos is seen in society since everyone is taking aggressive part in this rat race.
Spirituality also means to take escape from the daily life and spend time with oneself. Following thoughts might be helpful to establish spirituality:
- Who am I? What is my higher purpose of life?
- What can I do for the less fortunate people of society
- What God expects from me
- How can I tune my thoughts to align with the plans of God?
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9- Cognitive Skills
You might have noticed that people who do not have good reasoning skills tend to enforce their opinions on others, that leads to brawls consequently. Logical thinking is a skill that you can practice and improve on. As a practice, consider writing benefits of watching television. Once you have listed down your points, challenge these points and prove yourself wrong. Once you prove that some of your original postulates were wrong, think again and convince yourself that the original concepts were absolutely correct. Confusing?
Basically by practicing this, you are enabling and empowering your brain to consider a situation from different perspective. You got the idea? Basically, this skill will help you to manage different situations in life specially when people are opposing to your thoughts but you are already mentally prepared on how to respond since you have already pre-assessed the possible confrontation situation
10- Failing Honorable
Every billionaire failed at least 5 times, before finding success and I mean major failures, like when Mark Zuckerberg lost 4 billion dollars in a day. How many of you will almost commit suicide if you lost 0.5 percent of that?
There are other skills that are not taught in schools as well
11- Personal and Professional Networking
12- How to Choose Life Partner
13- How to Live Socially Responsible Life
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