Teachers’ Toolkit for Handling Sibling Bullying
When I saw that agreeable, friendly child helping his younger brother to pack his backpack, I couldn’t believe that he was a bully to the same brother. But that was what his teacher has told me earlier that morning.
She reported an incident of abuse in which elder child pushed his brother from a swing causing him to break his nose and that that incident was not a standalone event in the history of these boys.
How a young child of kindergarten could purposefully harm his brother and that so repeatedly? That question kept the staff bewildered.
Interestingly, dealing with such children and families starts with answering this same question. Teachers and onlookers need to understand that judging these family dynamics is not going to help these families in any way. In contrast, we need to understand that these events and behaviors are more impulsive than planned.
Step 1: Feel Empathy
And, no, here I am not talking about feeling empathy with the victim only. Bully also need as much empathy and acceptance from teachers as victims do.
The process of intervention in any kind of bullying can only start with acceptance. You have to accept the bully as a child. (There is a difference between accepting the behavior and accepting the person showing the behavior. And this difference is the start of empathy.)
This acceptance, which in turn is pre-requisite for empathy towards a bullying child, comes from understanding the pressure that child was going through. Teachers need to acknowledge that every child has an inert understanding about which behaviors hurt or which ones help. On top of this understanding, children are hardwired to choose good behaviors unless they feel internal or external pressures to choose otherwise.
In most cases of sibling bullying, child feel this pressure because their parents haven’t taught them to navigate through the feelings of jealousy that arise when their siblings join the family. Labeling them as bullies or aggressors only adds to this burden.
When a teacher understands this pressure, they have reason to help the bully not just the victim of bullying.
Step 2: Communicate
Most cases of sibling bullying co-exist with complex family dynamics. In such cases, the teacher should communicate the matter with the school psychologist.
In milder cases, they should communicate with the family, and other teachers of bullies and victims, about this matter to create awareness, clear misunderstandings, and create a common gam plan.
Appreciate the human they, victims and bullies alike, are. Be a little more positive towards the duo. If they want to talk about their emotions, lend a listening ear. Create class activities which talk about family dynamics and bonding with family members.
Educate the whole class about bullying and what they can do to stop sibling bullying.
Step 3: Develop Social Skills
Inclusion and tolerance are a few mindsets that help in eradicating any type of bullying. But if a child has to fight with himself (as is the case with a bully), the emotional intelligence is more crucial than these social mindsets.
Include class activities which focus on building socio-emotional intelligence among students. A few common examples include naming emotions of others and themselves, journaling, and building emotions using positive words or actions.
Sibling bullying starts at home and its elimination can only happen at hope. That said, teachers and school environment plays an vital role in mitigating the losses and creating awareness around this topic.
If you are witnessing such bullying among your students, step up to bring normalcy within the lives of those affected.
Syeda Aruba lives in a world that is not away from yours yet full of contentment and self-satisfaction. She believes that she can, and everyone in retrospect, can produce happiness within themselves by knowing the right tools and making a commitment. She is committed to making the world a better place for all to live in. You can read her stories at her blog.
With the advancement of science and technology current generation of kids have been bombarded with exciting cartoons, addicting video games, social media activities, messaging apps, TV series and many other time-taking online engagements. While all these activities...
Students start thinking from their teenage on what they want to be in future. Out of their curiosity, they consult their parents however many of parents do not have detailed knowledge and exposure about careers, professions, hobbies and skills to give proper guidance...
IT Infrastructure- Projector availability (to showcase videos) - Mic (depending upon class size)- White board (to scribble)Classroom Size and Furniture - Enough chairs- Cupboard for placing bags- Adequate light- Temperature controlTeacher Works as Facilitator-...
While each school strive to initiate and implement actions which are good for school, staff, parents and off course, for students, yet there are certain actions which we do not agree on. This page gives you the opportunity to share your thoughts on what needs to be...
This article provides 16 important roles and responsibilities of the Ministry of Education comprising of establishing visionary strategies, future-focus missions, long term planning with concrete intention to enhance the education sector of a country 16 Important...
This article covers 12 important aspects to ensure maximum literacy rate in poor countries of Asia and Africa in particular. The actions are required to be taken by respective ministries, local bodies, private investors, philanthropic organizations to enhance the...
#Check PointExpectationYour Ranking1Average class size Poor2Quality Education Fair3Teachers' Credentials Good4Attention to each student Fair5home work Fair6Discipline Poor7Career Counselling Good8Bullying...
Based on a detailed research, author has compiled a list of 55 qualities of a great school. This article is useful for parents, students, industry professionals and policy makers ! - Parents: o To evaluate the...
1- Buses should be air-conditioned 2- Monitoring cameras should be installed in each bus 3- Bus locations should be monitored by the bus company. 4- A nanny should be available in each bus 5- Bus route should be changed without approval from supervisors 6- Basic first...
Why home work should be given to students? Homework keeps the momentum of education at home and keeps the student under control. They do not waste thier time on video games or other lazy activities. Why home should NOT be given to students? Homework causes extra...
14 Recommendations For Choosing The Right School Bag for Kids
Parenting Tips Part 1 || Parenting Tips Part 2 || Parenting Tips Part 3 || Parenting Tips Part-4 47. Not everyone is A grader - Don’t expect...
Below are some of the key problems with Pakistan Education System: Extremely poor quality of teachers in government schools Existance of...
16 Inspirational Quotes About Teachers and Teaching
Parenting activities for toddlers & teenagers enabling your kids to become future starts! The precise list is easy to understand and practice
A detailed list of activities parents can ask their kids to do when they get bored. These is a quick and easy to understand list of activites